Can Women Keep It Casual Without Emotional Attachment? Sway Calloway Sparks Debate

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Sway Calloway on a hot seat for having an opinion that somehow became controversial. This radio and TV personality posted a link to a clip from his show, and now the question was thrown out in the open: Can women keep sex casual without getting emotionally attached? Answers started flooding in, on every side.

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In the video, Sway technically disputed the argument that women cannot be involved in sexual relationships without some emotional attachment. As one would expect, indicating that from his experience, sex can in fact be all about fun, and so can be emotional intimacy and fun-with-no-strings-attached. Of course, the double standard was highlighted-that when men do it, it is cool, while for women, it is suddenly considered a problem.

From there, the comments were filled with bona fide arguments and counterarguments. Some of the comments went in favor of those statements; “We do it the best!” and another in response, “Older dudes are way better than the young ones at taking care of themselves.” On the other hand, some were against the statements, one commenting, “Too much aids and herpes out here to be so casual with sex.”

The intellectually inclined. That one made a philosophical statement: “A key that can open any lock is called a master key. A lock that any key can enter and open is called garbage.” Then came a more pragmatic one replying to the former: “Children need to at least know who their father is for health reasons… so no, women have a lot more responsibility when it comes to how they handle their temple.”

A few women proceeded to give accounts of their personal experiences with the issue. “I am one of those women that can be intimate with you and not be emotionally attached…but not enough to be attached where I can’t let your ass go,” explains one woman. “Yes. I am not capable of attaching. I like to be alone. Out of sight out of mind.”

Some were still not willing to embrace those statements. “Did Sway just imply women can’t be hoes?” asked one skeptic. Another answered, “Just because you ‘can’ doesn’t mean you should.”

Afterward, one person wrote that 304’s don’t have an emotional attachment, and that most of them are dead inside with the intention of filling their inner void. The debate was thus ignited as to whether detachment was human or not.

A more nuanced discussion about gender roles, emotional expectations, and sexual freedom began to arise through the initial conversation launched by Sway. Whatever the case, one thing remains obvious: Just how STRONG opinions on this subject are.

To some, it’s empowerment. To others, it’s reckless behavior. Some say it’s a double standard; others say biology has never cared about fairness. What was noticeable is how personal the entire argument became as every single one began to give out their own set of rules, experiences, and normative positions.

The question might have been simple, but the answers are definitely not. This debate is not going anywhere and posts like this are the fodder that keeps it alive. Whether you’re in the camp that says “casual is cool” or that says “emotion always wins,” one thing seems certain: this is not a dying discussion.

And, just as you predicted, hundreds of comments, dozens of perspectives- but not one resolution. That is precisely what makes these discussions so compelling. Everybody has a view; nobody is budged even an inch.

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So can women keep it casual without becoming attached? Comments could tell us that maybe, sometimes for some, and definitely not for others. Crystal clear, right? Welcome to Internet-land.